Cynic gone mad

How come that the feeling of loss never leaves you even after such a long time?
But the feeling of happiness and joy, more often than not, evades your senses after its presence has lingered in just a matter of years, months, days, hours or sometimes even just a few seconds. Why do we tend to dwell more on the sorrowful things that happened in our lives but never gave much thought to the ones that have given us a few minutes of laughter and smiles? And mind you, we don’t just do it with our own lives. Whenever we see a movie or read a book, don’t we always remember the worst parts of it? Whether it would be the part where somebody died, lovers separated, friendship betrayed or meteors destroyed earth or aliens invaded it, these would almost always be the climax of the story. These would be the parts of the film or book that would always be remembered. The happy endings, you ask? We would say they are not realistic. It would be better if somebody dies, lovers are not reunited, friendships are not mended and earth is crushed into crumbles.
Have we become more cynical than Jessica Zafra that we cannot stay happy for a long time? Longer than a few minutes, perhaps?
I ask these questions because I don’t have the answers to them. I myself am guilty of this. I am not really the most cheerful person you’d meet. I have always been pessimistic about life because I think that it is easier to imagine the worst thing that could happen, so when it finally happens, it would not be so much of a devastation, at least not too much. But there are also drawbacks to this kind of thinking, because we leave no room for good dreams or great expectations and therefore we don’t give much effort to achieve such results. Could it be that we tend to reside in our sorrowful thoughts because we feel safer in it than in our own “happy place”? Our sad thoughts and experiences serve us as shields in our lives in a sense that if we would always settle in those experiences and then something bad happens yet again, we would be in a constant emotion—misery. But if we are elated in a happy thought all the time, and then something bad happens, we would be too shattered. It would be difficult to shift our emotional gear from happiness to sadness. And we don’t want that, do we? But we don’t have to shift gears if we don’t want to. Plus, if you were a good driver it wouldn’t be so much of a hassle to shift back gears, would it? Happiness is a state of mind, we can choose to be happy wherever, whenever, whatever. It is just a matter of choosing whether to have a good day or not. We decide on our happiness.

And so I say, let’s all be happy to all happy-endings we'll be witnessing in this lifetime, no matter how sappy it is.
(soap fans are with me on this...hahaha)